Every now and then people around us are depressed. You want to help them and make them feel loved. But beware of your words while taking to the person in depression, you don’t want to end up hurting their feeling. Here are some of the many phrases you should avoid.
“Ask help from God” or “You should pray more”
These phrases are common advice to everyone. Even, we heard it before as well when we told them our problem. Asking people who are having depression to pray more will make them feel like they haven’t prayed enough in their life or they might feel they have done it wrong. It will make the depressive patient questioned about themselves more.
“Relax, you’re just overthinking”
For depressive people to hear this phrase will make them feel like you just minimize their feelings. They will feel you’re ignoring their feelings and basically just don’t care about them. It might lead the depressive patients to overthink more and you will only just add their burden by thinking about what you said. Make them feel appreciated and loved.
“I have ever been in your place before”
Why is it important that you ever been in their place or not? That’s just a selfish thing to say because what you felt back then might be different on how they are feeling now. This phrase is an easy phrase for you to shift their story to yours. Just be quiet and listen to theirs instead of talking about yourself.
“It’s all in your head”
NO! This is a big NO to say to depressive patients. This is a sign you don’t believe the existence of mental health problems. If you’re saying this, you will make them ignore the fact that they need help. Look them in the eyes. Express kind words to them instead of blaming them.
“You’ll get over it”
Easier said than done. Instead, of telling about the future, just focus on them and try to put your position in their shoes. It is not easy for them at that moment. Maybe we are trying to make them think positively. Just hug them and they will feel a lot better.
“Other people have problems too”
Even though, what are you saying is true, but it is an act of trying to make them feel embarrassed. This is because the thought of them burdening you will come to their mind. They will feel they shouldn’t have told you their problems in the first place.
“But you don’t look depressed”
Someone who is having depression really knows how to hide it from everyone. If they’re telling you their burden then, it best to avoid the phrase because they trust you to tell them about their worries.
We are not professionals when it comes to giving advice but at least we should try to make them and the world a happier place. Eye contact is one of the essential things to do comfort them. Make them feel needed and show them their presence means so much to you and everyone else because you never knew someone’s worth unless you lose them.